This year I will have been married for 6 years to a wonderful and patient woman who accepts me for who I am and does not try to change me. I am extremely lucky and often wonder why I deserve her. I do my best to provide for her and our children. I don’t work more than I should, and I make sure that we do fun things as often as possible. Even though we have three children ages 3 and younger, I try to be spontaneous and get us out of the house or even out of town when we can. However, I have allowed the craziness that comes with being an entrepreneur and parent get in the way of being a romantic husband.
Don’t get me wrong, we have our romantic moments. I take her out to nice dinners and try to show her the finer things in life, but I also drown those out with being a typical man and allowing other issues to affect me. My wife is a romantic that loves to watch shows like Dowton Abbey and other british stuff like that. She desires to live in a time where men take their hats off in the presence of a lady and what not. I know what she likes because it’s all pinned on Pinterest. It is not hard these days to know everything about each other even when we don’t verbalize it all.
I have allowed the craziness of having three kids to allow us to sit on the couch most nights staring at our devices. We talk about our day and the kids, but often don’t allow ourselves to completely connect with each other. I know that we are not the only couple that does this. Life gets crazy, and you just want to relax.
I’m not trying to be “Feminist Ryan Gosling” romantic which is comical and annoying at the same time. I just want her to know that daily I am making an effort to show her how special she is to me. Not because my wife has given me any indication that I am lacking in this area; simply because I know that she deserves it and I want to be that kind of man to her.